Sometimes grief comes with casseroles, sympathy cards, and people asking how you’re doing.
Other times, it comes quietly — hidden behind awkward silence, uncomfortable comments, or the feeling that you “shouldn’t” be grieving as deeply as you are.
This is often called disenfranchised grief — grief that is not openly acknowledged, socially supported, or fully understood by others.
Is this one of those moments you wish life was as flexible as a computer? You thought everything would be fine, but one click, one keystroke that slipped your hand or your mind…and there goes everything?
But there’s no backspace.
You’re locked up. You’re frozen.
All that work you have done - is it lost? All the goals you’re trying to meet - are you going to fail them?
You try to focus on a solution, but the only recurring answer is “this can’t be happening!”
You may be feeling many things right now: relief, grief, guilt, confusion, guilt again, quiet shame, or just emptiness. Maybe you’re shocked by how much weight this feels like — even if, intellectually, you believed you made the right or necessary choice. It’s okay to feel all of this. And it’s even more okay to accept that this is something too heavy to carry alone.
One of the most healing decisions you can make is to reach out and seek support. A post-abortion support group can become a meaningful part of your healing journey.
Finding out you're pregnant in the middle of your studies can really mess up your perfect plans for finishing your education, getting your degree or diploma and heading off to the start of your new career. Or does it?
No one plans on having an STI and rarely do we want to talk about such things. However, the reality is that it can happen to almost anyone. Protecting yourself from STDs and STIs will help you protect the future you envision for yourself.
I don’t know about you, but I do a lot of online shopping. It is convenient. You can stay home, not have to deal with crowds or traffic, and have everything delivered to your door. It is nice when you know the company and they have proven to have quality products and reliable delivery. However, it can always be a little nerve wracking when you try a new store. Will the quality be as advertised; will you like it or need to return it? And what do you do if you get something you didn’t order?
If you have been on social media recently you may have seen a lot of buzz around the new Disney movie Encanto’s song “We don’t talk about Bruno.” It is a catchy song that reminded me of how there are some things that we just don’t talk about in society. Unfortunately, we have had many women say that’s how they felt regarding their abortion experience. Often, no one told them about all of the possible side effects, including the emotional side effects. That is why we wanted to take a moment to talk about the often-not-talked-about side of abortion.
“This can’t be happening!”
Yes, I have been there. The thoughts of “This is not how it’s supposed to be. This is not how I thought our relationship would turn out. This is not what I want for my life. This is the end of everything I’ve ever known.” The crying, the panicking, the bargaining…yes, I have been there.
You just got news you did not expect and now you are feeling devastated, shocked, and scared.